Should I tell him I lied about my age?

Dear Coco,

My free profile wasn't getting much attention, so I changed one detail (I subtracted eight years from my age) and started having better luck. My question is this: Should I tell the people I meet the truth, and if so, when? Should I wait until we are in a relationship?

Dating Dilemma

Dear Dilemma,

You can't lie your way to true love. In the first place, you're going to attract the wrong Romeos -people who are looking for partners younger than you. When those would-be suitors learn the truth, you will be exposed as a liar, and whatever trust exists between you will be destroyed. Personal ads are tough and hard to get right, but that's no excuse for doing it wrong.

Start again from the beginning. You can come up with several fresh ways to say you are youthful or appear to be younger than your years, but better yet, honor the fact that you have other virtues. Tout those loud enough and you are sure to find someone who will listen.

Match Advice by Coco
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